wounded parts
September 21, 2023

Wounded Parts

Here are some signs that show up that tell us when a younger part is still carrying a wound:

  • Fear of being abandoned 
  • Fear of being left or forgotten 
  • Difficulty forming healthy relationships 
  • Difficulty setting healthy boundaries 
  • Turns externally to others for approval or validation
  • Struggles with low self-esteem
  • Represses emotions 
  • Dissociation

Remember, any form of intensity means we are tapping into the emotions and sensations of a younger part. We can bring in our grounded adult part(s) who have “self-energy” to comfort these younger parts.

“Self-energy” is an IFS (Internal Family Systems) term that means we are in our adult self, from a place of curiosity, compassion, calmness, clarity, confidence, courage, creativity, and connectedness (also known as the 8C’s).

When in “self-energy,” we can make space for our parts but not be overwhelmed or blended with them. We can take a step back, acknowledge the parts of us communicating an old wound, and hold space for them. “Self-energy” allows us to slow down, take a breath, and notice what is showing up. 

Healing is possible.

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