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February 20, 2024

Fear of Anger

Sexual abuse survivors may develop a fear of anger as a coping mechanism. Let’s address this…

Many survivors are afraid of getting angry because their past experiences with anger were negative.

~Some survivors associate anger with violence

~Anger could have been used in a destructive and out of control way

~Anger could be associated to the perpetrator

Anger might be associated with the traumatic experience itself or with feelings of powerlessness

~Survivors may fear their own anger because it can be overwhelming or remind them of the perpetrator’s aggression

~Some may worry that their anger may connect them to their perpetrators

~Or worse, they are like their perpetrator

Expressing anger might feel counterintuitive or threatening to their sense of self.

~Furthermore, survivors may internalize shame and guilt, associating anger with negativity or wrongdoing.

~Societal expectations and gender norms can exacerbate these fears, especially for survivors who may have been conditioned to suppress their emotions


~Therapy often focus on helping survivors understand and manage their emotions, including anger.

~Creating a safe space to explore and express these feelings is crucial in the healing process, allowing survivors to reclaim a sense of control over their emotional responses and gradually overcome the fear associated with anger.

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